Safety Planning if you are being stalked

Safety Planning if you are being stalked

    • This is not your fault; no one deserves to live in fear.
    • Tell friends, neighbors, roommates, professors, co-workers, RAs, RDs, Public Safety, and other people you trust about the situation. If they do not know the stalker, give them a detailed description and/or show them a picture. This support system can help you stay safe.
    • Get a new, unlisted phone number. Consider using a pre-paid cell phone with no contracts or billing.
    • If possible, have a phone nearby at all times, preferably one to which the stalker has never had access. Memorize emergency numbers, and make sure that 911 and helpful family or friends are on speed dial.
    • Treat all threats, direct and indirect, as legitimate and inform law enforcement immediately.
    • Use a Stalking Incident Log to document the stalker's behavior, including date, time, location, what the stalker was doing, and if there were any witnesses. Save all emails, texts, and other messages.
    • Vary routines, including changing routes to work, school, class, the grocery store, and other places regularly frequented. Limit time spent alone and try to shop at different stores and visit different bank branches.
    • Trust your instincts. If you're somewhere that doesn't feel safe, either find ways to make it safer, or leave.
    • Try not to travel alone and try to stay in public areas.
    • If in imminent danger, locate a safe place such as a police station, public safety office, shelter, or populated public area
    • Identify escape routes out of your house, residence hall, etc. Teach them to those you live with.
    • Make sure your living space is secure. If you live off campus: change the locks if your stalker may have a key. Work with the police or your leasing agency (if you rent) to make sure your doors, windows, and other entrances/exits are secure.  If you live on campus, make sure you lock your doors, windows, etc.  Talk with your roommates to make sure they do this as well.
    • Pack a bag with important items you'd need if you had to leave quickly. Put the bag in a safe place, or give it to a friend or relative you trust.
    • When you are on campus, ask Public Safety to escort you to your car, building, or residence hall.
    • Adjust the privacy settings on social networking sites, or consider deleting your profiles altogether.
    • Consider taking out a stalking charge and requesting a Stalking Protective Order.
    • Consider talking with a Siena College official (Public Safety, Dean of Students, RD) to discuss more options for keeping you safe (orders of no contact, etc.) and holding the stalker accountable.
Adapted from The Stalking Resource Center